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InRelationship podcasts are designed so that you can learn better ways to relate to others, yourself and God. You get to hear from trained therapists and experts who are with you on this journey.

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Season 2: Episode 7

Strategies for Overwhelmed Children with Special Guest Dr. Joshua Straub

Not only can parents get overwhelmed when parenting, but our children can get overwhelmed too.

Listen in as Lindsey interviews Dr. Joshua Straub on the importance of floor play, bedtime routine and using emotion words.

And especially how important it is for healthy brain development in our children.

Dr. Straub is a husband, dad, speaker, author and family & leadership coach. Learn more about Dr. Straub at https://www.joshuastraub.com/

Season 2: Episode 6: 

Strategies for Overwhelmed Parents with Special Guest Dr. Joshua Straub

Let’s just be honest. Every child can be challenging at some point.  Mariam, Aron and Lindsey can all raise a hand to testify that we have each been through trying stages as a parent!

 When parenting gets challenging, a natural inclination would be to isolate, however it is not what is needed.  Reaching out to others who have been where you are is crucial! This is why we sent out a request to Dr. Joshua Straub, so we could pick his brain and find out what strategies he uses to help overwhelmed parents.

Grab your notebook (or just open your notes section in your phone) and jot down those helpful tips that can help any parent!  Enjoy!

To connect with Dr. Straub, visit www.joshuastraub.com 

Season 2, Episode 5: Restoring Connection in Marriage

Do we need to talk about what happened in the past?

Will that really help our marriage today?

That is a question we hear over and over in the counseling office. Listen in as Mariam, Aron and Lindsey answer that exact question and give the reasons behind the answer. 

Season 2: Episode 4

How to Repair your Marriage with Special Guest Kelly Bourque

If you are married, dating or engaged, the art of repair is essential to a healthy relationship. And even though it is essential, let us be the first to say, it is DIFFICULT!  Whenever we feel disconnected, distant or upset in our relationship, we are going to move to ways we know how to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, those ways do not always protect the relationship.

The antidote? It’s repair.

Grab a pencil and paper because you are going to want to take notes this episode.

And don’t forget, we offer a great weekend workshop for couples that teach all about repair in relationship.  Click on Upcoming Events for more information.

Please visit KellyBourque.com to connect with the fantastic Kelly Bourque, LMFT.

Season 2. Episode 3: How to Fight Disconnection in Marriage with Special Guest Kelly Bourque

 

Every marriage has moments of disconnection. For some, they last moments. For some, they last years.  We brought in special guest, Kelly Bourque, to help us realize when we are disconnected in marriage and some questions to ask ourselves about our relationship.

Then join Mariam, Aron and Lindsey as we discuss how staying in our head with logic, reasoning and problem solving can create emotional disconnection in ourselves and our relationship. Learn how they work with clients to move from head to heart.

To learn more about Kelly, visit: http://www.kellybourque.com/

02. Hot Topic Episode: Healthy Living in the New Year with Special Guest Constance Rhodes

Everyone is talking “Health” in January, and we wanted to join in! However, our conversation will not sound like the ads, commercials and messages you are hearing on TV, radio, magazines, etc.  Instead of focusing on only body health, we also look at the whole health of a person (body, mind and Spirit).

Some of our discussions include the difference between weight loss and being healthy, how to help our kids have a healthy view of their own body, and Aron shares his own personal journey to health.

Tune in because we have invited back special guest, Constance Rhodes, founder of FINDINGbalance and author of “Life Inside the Thin Cage.”

For more information about Constance and her ministry, please visit: https://www.findingbalance.com/

01. Hot Topic: How to Make New Year’s Goals Stick with Special Guest Constance Rhodes

Did you notice we didn’t say the word ‘resolution?’ There is purpose in that!

We have found that most resolutions do not stick. Not only that, we have found that once the clock strikes midnight on December 31st, we do not magically change into a new person who now has the time, ability, will-power to do everything we wished we had done the year prior.

So what is the secret to making change stick? Join Lindsey, Aron and Mariam as they discuss this very topic with Constance Rhodes. Constance is the founder and CEO of FINDINGbalance and author of “Life Inside the ‘Thin’ Cage.”  Tune in and find some encouragement and direction this new year!

Connect with Constance at:

https://www.findingbalance.com/

020. How the Holy Spirit Leads Us with Special Guest Lloyd Shadrach

We have yet to meet a person that has not wondered if they were moving in the right direction for their life (ourselves included).

And for us as Christians, we want to make sure we are guided by the Holy Spirit. Yet, here is where the confusion can happen….how do we know it is the voice of the Holy Spirit?

Join us as we ask this very question to teaching pastor Lloyd Shadrach of Fellowship Bible Church Brentwood and then also answer this question ourselves.

Find out more about Fellowship Bible Church Brentwood at https://www.fellowshipbiblechurch.org/brentwood/

019. Engaging with the Holy Spirit with Special Guest Lloyd Shadrach

When thinking about the Holy Spirit, we all ask ourselves great questions like:

Who is the Holy Spirit?

What does the Holy Spirit do?

How do we even know He is with us?

How do we have a relationship with the Holy Spirit?

What does it look like to live by the Spirit?

And do you know what we say? Those are excellent questions that we have too! So we called in teaching pastor, Lloyd Shadrach, from Fellowship Bible Church in Brentwood, TN to bring clarity and understanding.  We really, really enjoyed the conversation with Lloyd and we hope you do too!

For more information about Fellowship Bible Church, visit: https://www.fellowshipbiblechurch.org/

018. How Pornography Affects Marriage with Special Guest Dr. Noah Zapf

If you look at any longitudinal study on the affects of pornography and marriage, you will find that it does not help a marriage relationship. At all. In fact it hurts it.  But why?

Join the inRelationship crew as we interview Dr. Noah Zapf on why and how pornography harms healthy connection.

To connect with Dr. Noah Zapf, visit: https://www.noahzapf.com/

017. What Parents Need to Know About Porn with Special Guest Dr. Noah Zapf

 

Research is pretty clear about the negative effects of pornography on having healthy, connected relationships.  As parents in a digital age, how do we approach the topic of pornography with our children?

We brought in expert Dr. Noah Zapf to share with us how our parenting styles, attachment and shame all affect online sexual behaviors.  If you are a parent, you definitely want to listen in.

To connect with Dr. Noah Zapf, visit: https://www.noahzapf.com/

016. Hot Topic Episode: Dating Rules that Actually Work

Bumble, Tinder, Match.com, eHarmony, coffee meets bagel and so, so many more ways to find a date these days. And with every new dating site, there seems to be new rules that emerge on how to date….however the more we look into these rules, they are usually not made with long, lasting relationships in mind.

Join the conversation with Aron Strong, Lindsey Castleman and special guest, Kelly Bourque, LMFT, as they discuss what the new dating rules are, and which ones to ignore and which ones to pay attention to.

To connect with Kelly, visit kellybourque.com

015. Hot Topic Episode: How to Deal with In-Laws

Marriage brings two families together. And when we bring two families together there will be some difficulty…. It is inevitable.  Even look at the royal wedding this year: in-law difficulty was there! No one is immune!

Join Aron Strong, Lindsey Castleman and special guest, Kelly Bourque LMFT, as they discuss six ways to have a better relationship with your in-laws.  

Learn more about Kelly at kellybourque.com

  1. How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You with Special Guest Corey Trimble, Part 2

If you have ever been in a relationship with anyone at any point of your life, then you will have been met with the need to forgive. Yet, what is forgiveness really? And how do we forgive?

Join the inRelationship crew as we invite Pastor Corey Trimble of the Experience Community Church to share his journey with forgiveness, then listen in as Mariam, Aron and Lindsey talk about what forgiveness should and should not look like.

Learn more about the Experience Community Church at https://experiencecc.com/

013. What it Really Means to Have a Personal Relationship with God

There are so many factors that can influence a person’s view of God: Biblical interpretations, the way they were parented, the way God was presented to them, whether or not they want to take personal responsibility for their actions, etc, etc.  However, the Gospel is not meant to be complicated, but boy, we can complicate it!

This is why we asked Pastor Corey Trimble of the Experience Community Church in Murfreesboro, TN, to sit down with Aron to talk about what it really means to have a personal relationship with God.  Then Mariam and Lindsey join Aron to talk about the beginning of their own relationship with God.

We want to invite you to listen in. We would also love to know more about how your relationship with God began. Please leave us a comment at inrelationship.us. Also, if you have any questions about a relationship with God, please feel free to reach out as well.

Learn more about the Experience Community Church at https://experiencecc.com/

012. How to Really Change Your Life with Scott Reall

It’s true. You really can create change in your life.  We can completely dismiss the phrase “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks” because research and study shows that you can!

There are stages of change and our expert Scott Reall, walks us through those stages of change and helps us know what they look like. Also Scott helps us know what kinds of motivators we might see.

We pray this episode helps you begin to move from thinking about change to actually experiencing true change for the better.

To purchase Scott’s book, join a group, be coached by Scott or just to learn more, visit http://www.restoresmallgroups.org/

011. How Isolation Keeps You From What You Need Most with Scott Reall. Part 1

Have you ever heard of the term “Crowded Loneliness?”  We now have access through social media to know about so many people and allow them to know about us. There are lots of benefits to that, however one drawback is that we are finding more and more people are not in true community. Nor do they know how to be.

Listen in as Scott Reall, founder of Restore Small Groups, shares how he came to be in true community and why his life’s passion is to help others learn how to be truly known by others.

Learn more about Scott Reall and his small group ministry at http://www.restoresmallgroups.org/

010b. Our last bonus episode!!! Coaching a type 8 (Protective Challenger)

This special bonus episode highlights what it is like to be an Enneagram type 8, the Protective Challenger.  Beth McCord helps inRelationship host, Lindsey Castleman, express what it is like inside the world of a Protective Challenger…….and if you know type 8s, that is a vulnerable thing to do. And vulnerability can feel really scary.

Usually type 8s can come across as intimidating, but there is so much more below that exterior. Listen in on this conversation and let us know your thoughts at inrelationship.us!

010. Enneagram Descriptions 7-9 Easily Understood!

Please enjoy the last part of the Enneagram series! So far you have learned 2/3 of the Enneagram and now we have Enneagram expert, Beth McCord back to finish out the descriptions of type 7, 8 and 9. The names for those types are the Entertaining Optimist, Protective Challenger and Peaceful Mediator, respectively.

We hope you have enjoyed the series as much as we have and stay tuned for the special bonus episode where Beth coaches the inRelationship team on how to work with Lindsey, who is a type 8 (protective challenger).

We would love to know how this series better helped you relate to yourself and others! Leave us a message at inrelationship.us to tell us!

009b. Bonus Episode!! Enneagram Coaching Session with a Type 5 (Investigative Thinker)

Yes! The live coaching session with Beth McCord (Enneagram coach, speaker, teacher extraordinaire) is back!

This time we are focusing in on type five (the Investigative Thinker) and Aron (our inRelationship host) is a type five!

Beth really opens up our eyes to how to better be in relationship with Aron and those lovely type fives! If you have an Investigative Thinker in your life, you MUST listen because it helps you know what is happening beneath the surface for type fives (especially since they do not typically share ALL that is happening!). Enjoy!

If you are in relationship with a type five, would love to know what resonated with you in this podcast.  Comment at inrelationship.us

009. Enneagram Descriptions 4-6 Easily Understood with Beth McCord + Special Bonus Episode

We hope you enjoyed the first podcast on defining the Enneagram!

In this episode Enneagram expert, Beth McCord, shares with us what it is like to be a type 4, type 5 and type 6. The names for those types are the Romantic Individualist, Investigative Thinker and the Loyal Guardian, respectively.

Both Beth and Lindsey (inRelationship host) have husband’s who are the Loyal Guardians so there was a lot to talk about!

Discovering the Enneagram helps us better understand how to relate to not only ourselves, but also to others. Listen in and enjoy this episode.

To learn more about Beth, visit: www.yourenneagramcoach.comTo take the free Enneagram assessment, visit: http://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/p/yecassessment

This podcast episode is brought to you by thera-LINK. thera-LINK is an easy to use telehealth and practice management platform for therapists, coaches, and mental health providers. The platform has HIPAA compliant telehealth video, scheduling payment, notes, and file sharing with more new features being added all the time! Visit http://www.thera-link.com and use code inRelationship to get 20% off your first SIX months of service after your free 15-day trial! https://www.thera-link.com/

Enneagram Descriptions 1-3 Easily Understood!

We are all in relationship with someone—friend, spouse, parents, children, co-worker, neighbor, even your grocery cashier—and each relationship feels different because each person is different (whether we like it or not 😊).

It is easy to see someone who is different than you and start to dismiss them, however there is so much power and health in noticing differences in each other and embracing or understanding them. The Enneagram is an incredible way of noticing the lens we look at life through and shining a light on how others look through life as well.   In this episode, Beth McCord, Enneagram expert, speaker, teacher and coach breaks down the first three Enneagram types in an easy-to-understand way.

Tune in because we guarantee you will begin to look at yourself and/or others in a new and much more accepting way.

 

To learn more about Beth, visit: www.yourenneagramcoach.com

To take the free Enneagram assessment, visit: http://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/p/yecassessment

For more about inRelationship, visit: inRelationship.us

This podcast episode is brought to you by thera-LINK. thera-LINK is an easy to use telehealth and practice management platform for therapists, coaches, and mental health providers.

The platform has HIPAA compliant telehealth video, scheduling payment, notes, and file sharing with more new features being added all the time! Visit http://www.thera-link.comand use code inRelationship to get 20% off your first SIX months of service after your free 15-day trial!

Bonus  Enneagram Podcast Episode!!

Sooooo we had a brilliant idea to invite Beth McCord to sit with the three of us for the ending of the podcast episode. What we thought would be a quick 15-minute chat turned into a 30+ minute live Enneagram coaching session. It was amazing (because Beth is amazing!)!

If you like to listen in on people’s personal conversations, this bonus episode is for you! Beth starts to coach Mariam and discovers that she was mis-typed! For those of you who can’t decide if your Enneagram number is a 2 or a 9, tune on in as Beth pulls back the veil of what it is like to be a type 2 and a type 9.

007. How to Leave an Abusive Relationship, Amy Alexander pt 2

Support and Resources for You or a Loved One in an Abusive Relationship

Once in an abusive relationship, it is hard to find a way out. Especially if a healthy relationship was never modeled for you growing up. Leaving an abusive relationship is scary and needs to be treated with care.

Join Mariam, Aron and Lindsey as they discuss relationships and also tune in as Mariam interviews Amy Alexander, an expert in domestic and sexual violence.

Amy shares her resources of where to get help if you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, as well as how to support someone who is wanting to leave the abusive.

Learn more about inRelationship at inrelationship.us. Also, visit inRelationship.us for resources that Amy mentions in the podcast.

Learn more about Amy and the Refuge Center for Counseling at refugecenter.org.

 

Amy’s Resource Recommendations
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006. Recognizing Abuse in Relationships, Amy Alexander pt 1

Knowing and Not Ignoring the Signs of Abuse

Our desire to be connected to someone in relationship is powerful. There are times where people use that powerful connection to control others through a dangerous abuse cycle that can leave their loved one confused and hurt.

Join Mariam, Aron and Lindsey as they discuss the difficulty of abuse in relationships and also tune in as Mariam interviews Amy Alexander, an expert in domestic and sexual violence.

Amy shares her knowledge of recognizing abuse in relationships both from her personal story and from her counseling practice.

Learn more about inRelationship at inrelationship.us. Also, visit inRelationship.us for resources that Amy mentions in the podcast.

Learn more about Amy and the Refuge Center for Counseling at refugecenter.org.

 Click here for resources such as the Cycle of Abuse, The Power and Control Wheel and the Equality Wheel. 

005 Walking Beside the Grieving, Jen Radler pt2

Tune in to hear Jen Radler share a personal story about how God made it clear to her that she was supposed to comfort people who were nearing the end of their life, and how He paved a way for her to do this in Kenya.

Also listen in to hear Lindsey, Mariam and Aron compare ways people show up for others in grief that have been helpful……and really not helpful.

Special Guest: Jennifer Radler, missionary in Kenya, Africa.

Connect with us at inrelationship.us

To find out more and/or support Jen’s ministry, visit: www.christianrelieffund.org/giveonline. Under designation, put “other” and in comments write “jen radler, malindi”

004. Living in Different Cultures, Jen Radler pt 1

Walking in to a brand-new culture includes so many emotions including fear and excitement!  Listen in to hear about several different experiences of living in a new culture and learning how to navigate relationships with people who see the world differently.  Special Guest: Jennifer Radler, missionary in Kenya, Africa

Connect with us at inrelationship.us

To find out more and/or support Jen’s ministry, visit: www.christianrelieffund.org/giveonline. Under designation, put “other” and in comments write “jen radler, malindi”

Episode 003: A New Way to Look at Anxiety (part two)

In Episode 003: A New Way to Look at Anxiety, Janina Tiner, a licensed marriage and family therapist & certified level 3 IFS therapist, continues her interview on how we can begin to live from the image of God and walk through our days working together with all of the parts of us instead of feeling overwhelmed or overtaken by them.

Plus, Aron, Lindsey and Mariam share how anxiety and depression show up in clients in their office. The interview with Janina was so insightful and rich with information, that we had to break it up into two!  If you missed the first episode (002), be sure to listen to that one before you begin episode 003.

So glad you are learning with us! Join in the conversation at inRelationship.us. To connect with Janina Tiner, visit her website.

Episode 002: A new way to look at anxiety with Janina Tiner

In Episode 002: A New Way to Look at Anxiety, Janina Tiner, a licensed marriage and family therapist & certified level 3 IFS therapist, shares with us the importance of looking at the different parts of us (including anxiety) and why looking at those parts with compassion, clarity and calmness can lead to inner healing.

Plus, Aron, Lindsey and Mariam share how anxiety and depression show up in clients in their office.

The interview with Janina was so insightful and rich with information, that we had to break it up into two!  This episode is part 1 and then episode 003, will be the final part to the interview with Janina.  Hope you enjoy!

Join in the conversation at inRelationship.us.

To connect with Janina Tiner, visit her website.

Podcast Episode 001: InRelationship Welcome!

Join marriage and family therapists, Aron Strong, Mariam Coaster and Lindsey Castleman as they introduce the brand-new inRelationship podcast!

This episode offers tips and insight into why we need to allow both positive and negative emotions into our life–and really uncovers if there is a difference.

inRelationship equips people to grow in healthy personal and professional relationships from a Gospel-centered, attachment-based approach.